I told Me So
A Memoir by
Marnie Baesler
I Told Me So
Author, Marnie Baesler, found herself in a relationship that cost her more than a decade of her life. Passing by a mirror in the home she shared with her emotionally abusive husband, she caught a glimpse of herself and didn’t recognize her haunting reflection.
Disillusioned by what she saw, Marnie vowed that she would step into her intuition, follow her heart, and remove herself and her two children from a relationship that had left her a shadow of the woman she once was.
‘I Told Me So’ is a heartfelt account of a woman growing up in a small Montana ranching town in the 80’s and 90’s. Dealing with small town drama, a family fraught with alcohol dependency, and a strong appetite to please, Marnie taught herself, early on in life, to never “rock the boat.”
Surviving as a people pleaser worked, until it didn’t and when fate asked her to look herself in the mirror, she whispered the words, “I told me so,” and vowed to tune into her intuition and let it guide her to freedom and beyond.
What They’re Saying
Poignant and inspirational. Marnie’s ability to reach within herself and calmly, coolly, and meticulously craft an escape plan is a testament to her intellect and bravery.
— Margaret Hulse, Editor
About the Author
Marnie Baesler, author of her debut book, ‘I Told Me So,’ is a domestic violence and sexual assault survivor and women’s advocate who possesses an innate understanding of how to approach, exit, and find resolve from abuse.
From a young age, Marnie was forced to face sexual trauma head-on, a tragedy that would revisit her decades later. With patience, calculated steps, and a strong desire to raise her children in a place of light and love, Marnie escaped the throes of emotional abuse, a devastating form of domestic violence that goes ignored and unpunished far too often.
In her memoir, ‘I Told Me So,’ Marnie has created a blueprint for women who are ready to step away from the pain and suffering caused by their abusive partner into a place where they can not only survive but thrive.
Marnie serves as an inspiration to her two children, whom she fought for a better life, and also to countless women who long to seek solace from abuse but don’t know how to leave.
An excerpt from Chapter Seventeen
The phone rang and rang for what seemed an eternity and he finally picked up, only to be met with the uncontrollable wailing from my son. The kind of sobbing that makes a mother’s heart rush and question her decision to leave him and go off to school.
“What’s wrong!!? What’s wrong?!!! I yelled into the phone. What is going on? Is Zach okay?!!.
The crying persisted.
Please talk to me and tell me what is happening.” I only had a few more moments to get to my second final exam. My mind was racing. Do I rush home to take care of my baby or do I run back down the corridor to take my second exam? I had to pee. I felt like I was going to throw up. I broke out into a cold sweat. My father had passed away from a heart attack; is this what it feels like?
As Zach’s crying seemed to intensify to the point I was almost in tears, finally my husband snidely spoke into the phone and said “If you were home, like a good mom, he wouldn’t be crying like that.” I could sense the anger from my husband, and the drone of the dial tone buzzed in my ear. This was going to be a long, long night.